I’ll Focus on What I Want in a Relationship
What it comes down to is, you must find a way of offering a Vibration that matches the relationship that you want instead of the relationship that you have. You have to ignore the absence of the relationship you are seeking, or ignore the presence of the unwanted relationship that you have, before you can get to the relationship that you want. And that is the tricky part. You must make what you want a more dominant part of your Vibration than what you have; and once you are consistently doing that, what you want and what you have will intertwine, and you will be living your desire. In other words, until you have tended to the relationship between what you desire and the chronic thoughts you think – until you have tended to the relationship between the Non-Physical You and the physical you _ no other relationship can be satisfying.
The Vortex – Where the Law of Attraction Assembles All Cooperative Relationships (page 78)
Part of my posting this is the Lack of a satisfying romantic relationship in my life and a chronic unsatisfying relationship a close friend is having, but mostly the latter as I just got another “I am sad in my relationship” message. Unfortunately she knows nothing about the Law of Attraction / Abraham-Hicks so I cannot say or share the above information in a way that she would understand, plus it is her life, her decisons to make and if she wants to continue the breaking up, going back again, breaking up again, going back again, breaking up again cycle (which has been becoming more frequent these past couple of weeks). But it does hurt me to see her continue in this loop but then I myself have not ye been able to be living proof of the above words, so I would not be a place to talk about it and be believable…yet!
But ironically it is because of my poor choices in past relationships which also led to my financial problems. For some reason in my experience relationships and finances have been greatly intertwined. So it seems I have to stay out of serious relationships to recover financially but yet as soon as I get romantically involved again, my finances suffer again. But yet even as I work to recover financially (yet again) I cannot ignore the longing of my heart to know real true love, not the possessive manipulative love that seems to have become the norm lately. But I do know (NOW) that the first Love that must be taken care of is the Love of myself, for if there is no love for self there can be no real love for others. But what I seem to attract are those that love for them and their needs must ALWAYS come before anything and anyone else and any failure to comply with their needs is met much attempts to make me feel guilty, feel selfish, feel unworthy, the list goes on depending on the person.
Just a brief history (I could write a book if I went into all the details of the soap opera that was my last relationship with my son’s mother): Everything was good and happy until she grew impatient with our marriage plans (she lives in another country) but I kept her up to date with all that I was doing but while I was working on this she was seeing another man who told her that if I truly loved her she would already be here and married, so she left me for the other man and got married. But she ended up in a sexless and loveless marriage and reached out to me asking for a second chance and because there was still love in my heart for her, I did and then saw her for who she really was, spoiled and selfish and endless complaining and demands which created more financial problems and problems in my job (both jobs) but she didn’t see the problem(s) she was creating in my life for her eyes this is the way it was supposed to be , realtionships were supposed to be hard. Again, I am being brief, but she is now back in her country with my son, and now I got this mess she left in my life to clean up before I am where I can be to properly take care of my son here. What is even more ironic is that she knew what all I went through with woman I dated before her and yet she goes and does almost the same thing to me! (Actually I do plan to write a book about this and all I have been through when I get time again. Technically it has already been started during that recovering time when she left me and when I took her back in my life) I accept responsibilty for making the decision to give her a second chance and accept her back in my life and the high price I paid and am STILL paying! But in my video message I record for my son, daddy ha promised him that all will be made correct in my life so that daddy can bring him home here where he belongs. There are many days I hear the Will Smith song “Just the Two of Us” in my head when thinking about my son, for there are days, like today when all that matter is him and me….and until I can get my “realtionship vibration” correctly tuned I just need to focus on getting my financial house in order….but of course that does not stop the calling of the lonely heart….I once asked if there was a Univeral Affirmation that covered all areas of ones life and one day I actually found it! And then I lost it…had not quite commited it to memory yet and can’t remember where I found it, but hopefully I can find it again!
But back on topic, I know relationships extend beyond those romantic in nature, but other day to day relationships as well. And I know some of those currently in my life are showing me what I want and don’t want in a realtionship, I just got to keep reminding myself that the ones giving me the desire are NOT the ones to fulfill that desire! I also know that those in our lives serve as mirrors to who we are and I “see” several mirros that are in need of change!